Dress Like a Woman

When news broke of a possible new dress code in Trump's White House, it should have come as no surprise to anyone.  Let's face it, hes show he likes to surround himself with beautiful women whom he fantasizes all want him. It's a boost to his fragile ego. Of course he would want them to dress the part of the role they play in his fantasies, and he has the power to make them do that.

The backlash wasn't unexpected, either.  I'm proud how many women stood up and said "this is what 'dressing like a woman' means" and showed off the various uniforms of their occupations: soldiers, doctors, astronauts, police officers, firemen, and even a Supreme Court judge.  I don't even know if these women exist in Trump's mind anyway. The only women he "sees" are the women who serve him and if they aren't falling all over themselves for him, they aren't really women anyway.  His rhetoric has made that apparent.

What did surprise me, at least a little bit, was the backlash in comment sections that deteriorated into bashing women's clothing choices.  It seems there are a lot more people like Trump out there who only see their fellow human beings as characters in the movie of their lives.

Yoga pants took a big hit. "If you're not exercising you shouldn't be wearing them. No one should go out in public in them unless they're working out."  Also criticized were sneakers, jeans, shorts, t-shirts, and much more. Female celebrities have criticized other females in the past as well.  When you're paid to look good, that's a different matter altogether.  But to tell a woman with a couple of toddlers at home who struggles to just keep everyone alive through the end of the day that she should "dress like a woman and be sexy" get a big middle finger from me.

If someone is wearing something you don't like, how does that harm you? I've often wondered that in threads I've seen about cruising where people are often quite vocal about how what other people wear "ruins their night" on a formal night.  Why? You dress how you want, you enjoy your night.  Or is the world just comprised of people in the movie of your life and their only purpose is to entertain you?

In my life I've been pretty much a sneakers, jeans, and t-shirt kind of gal, much to my mother's consternation.  When I worked jobs with a dress code, I adhered to it.  I would wear dress pants and flats with a blouse or sweater at the freight company.  I had issues at times when I was the one crawling under the big old computers or lugging in those big boxes of green and white barred paper, but I did it.  I did get criticized for not wearing a dress or skirt, or not having heels. Hey, I didn't even wear heels for my wedding. I hate 'em.  I had a couple of pairs of high-heeled boots that went up my calf so at least there was more support, but they didn't last long.  I just don't find any of that comfortable.

At the hotel for a while I had a manager's dress code at night.  I wore dress pants and a blouse or sweater, again with flats or Crocs that I would kick off as much as possible. They changed over to uniforms and I adhered to that, although I thought I looked better when I dressed myself before.  Dresses and skirts have never really practical at work, in my opinion.

Now I'll wear dresses in the summer as I find them lighter and breezier, letting me cool off easier.  I quit wearing a bra a couple of years ago.  I finally gave up since none of them were comfortable and I wear a cami between me and whatever else I'm wearing.  Sneakers are it, unless it's summer for flip flops or sandals, and I will give in to boots when there's snow on the ground although I still prefer sneakers as much as possible.

Why does me being who I am matter to anyone else?  If I wear a dress that is not a "gown" per se on a cruise formal night, how does that hurt anyone?  If I wear sneakers all my life how does that affect you?  If I look like crap in my lularoe leggings but have to dash to the market for milk, how are you in any way damaged by that?

Dress like a woman means:

1 - Be a woman
2 - Dress how you like



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