Dear Men: You're Entitled to Nothing, Period
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This Man Sent His Date An Invoice After She Ghosted Him
The man apparently went on a date with a woman and she never responded afterward to any texts or phone calls for a second date or ever gave him an explanation. His reaction was to send her an invoice for the cost of the date, which she put on social media.
In general, it's not a polite thing to not at least give an explanation that you don't want to see someone again. However, no one knows what transpired on the date. Perhaps she got some vibes she didn't like and didn't want to have any contact with him again. Perhaps she did already say there wasn't going to be another date and he wouldn't take NO for an answer. Perhaps he thought he was entitled to something that night because he had paid for dinner and drinks. And perhaps she was just a bitch looking for a night out and nothing else. I'll admit it, I know girls who would go to clubs when they were broke and get guys to buy drinks for them.
In any of these cases, though, the men aren't owed a damn thing. No one forced them to do any of this. They weren't forced by the acquaintances I knew at the clubs to pay for their drinks. This man wasn't forced to take this woman on a date. If he has a problem paying for dinner and drinks and not "getting anything in return" then perhaps he should make it a habit to go dutch instead.
You're not entitled to an explanation. Just like we are trying now to teach young girls they don't have to hug and kiss relatives when they don't want to ("My body, my choice") women do not have to respond to a text if they don't want to. They don't have to answer the phone when you call. If there was no reason for it, and she's just a bitch who used him for a dinner and a couple of drinks, then this guy should be counting his lucky stars that it only cost him this little bit to figure that out, not sending her an invoice. I think the fact that he did send that invoice speaks volumes about his character and that she probably had a good reason for not wanting to have anything to do with him again.
I'm not all that surprised at the number of people who think he's entitled to something. It's hard to break the idea that women are a commodity to be bought and sold and somehow dating someone is "investing" in a relationship. The investing comes in the building of an emotional connection. The fact that so many see this situation in terms of money and that she owed him something for it it is something we have to work on changing.
Dear Men,
You're not owed anything when you go on a date. If you don't want to buy dinner and drinks, then don't. Either go dutch or spend time getting to know each other another way. You can spend time at a park with your dogs. You can go to a coffee shop. You can go to an even that interests both of you, such as a gaming convention or sporting event. You can do a wine and painting class together.
There are many options for casual ways of getting to know a person. If you choose to do it by paying for dinner and drinks, that's on you. Women don't have to "put out." They don't owe you a kiss. They don't owe you a second date or even a "thank you" although that would be polite. They don't owe you an explanation for why they don't want to see you again.
And in this case, I think it is pretty self-evident why.
This Man Sent His Date An Invoice After She Ghosted Him
The man apparently went on a date with a woman and she never responded afterward to any texts or phone calls for a second date or ever gave him an explanation. His reaction was to send her an invoice for the cost of the date, which she put on social media.
In general, it's not a polite thing to not at least give an explanation that you don't want to see someone again. However, no one knows what transpired on the date. Perhaps she got some vibes she didn't like and didn't want to have any contact with him again. Perhaps she did already say there wasn't going to be another date and he wouldn't take NO for an answer. Perhaps he thought he was entitled to something that night because he had paid for dinner and drinks. And perhaps she was just a bitch looking for a night out and nothing else. I'll admit it, I know girls who would go to clubs when they were broke and get guys to buy drinks for them.
In any of these cases, though, the men aren't owed a damn thing. No one forced them to do any of this. They weren't forced by the acquaintances I knew at the clubs to pay for their drinks. This man wasn't forced to take this woman on a date. If he has a problem paying for dinner and drinks and not "getting anything in return" then perhaps he should make it a habit to go dutch instead.
You're not entitled to an explanation. Just like we are trying now to teach young girls they don't have to hug and kiss relatives when they don't want to ("My body, my choice") women do not have to respond to a text if they don't want to. They don't have to answer the phone when you call. If there was no reason for it, and she's just a bitch who used him for a dinner and a couple of drinks, then this guy should be counting his lucky stars that it only cost him this little bit to figure that out, not sending her an invoice. I think the fact that he did send that invoice speaks volumes about his character and that she probably had a good reason for not wanting to have anything to do with him again.
I'm not all that surprised at the number of people who think he's entitled to something. It's hard to break the idea that women are a commodity to be bought and sold and somehow dating someone is "investing" in a relationship. The investing comes in the building of an emotional connection. The fact that so many see this situation in terms of money and that she owed him something for it it is something we have to work on changing.
Dear Men,
You're not owed anything when you go on a date. If you don't want to buy dinner and drinks, then don't. Either go dutch or spend time getting to know each other another way. You can spend time at a park with your dogs. You can go to a coffee shop. You can go to an even that interests both of you, such as a gaming convention or sporting event. You can do a wine and painting class together.
There are many options for casual ways of getting to know a person. If you choose to do it by paying for dinner and drinks, that's on you. Women don't have to "put out." They don't owe you a kiss. They don't owe you a second date or even a "thank you" although that would be polite. They don't owe you an explanation for why they don't want to see you again.
And in this case, I think it is pretty self-evident why.
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